![]() I’ve tried to tell my kids lately that they are allowed to be mad or angry at me. In fact, if there were such a thing as the queen of neediness, I’d probably be wearing the crown. They just need my help, love, and support to do that.Īnd frankly, I’m needy too. They aren’t out to make my life miserable they’re out to discover their own lives and how to live them. I don’t know about you, but I sometimes look at my little kids and see so much neediness that I just can’t see that they are needy because they’re human. The tween emotions in my house right now are killing me. We punish, raise our voices, and get annoyed, or if you’re anything like me, you withdraw from the kid that is being the toughest that day. After all, our kids are human too.īut sometimes we don’t take the time to remember that. ![]() Maybe it’s a crappy night’s sleep, or maybe it’s someone being mean at school, or maybe, just maybe, they just woke up in a foul crusty mood for no reason whatsoever. It’s my job to get to the root of that issue and figure it out. One thing I find with kids is that there is usually a root to the problem that is manifesting itself with a temper tantrum or a bad day. But it’s not easy to remind ourselves of that. Well then, are we offering this same grace and humanity to our kids? Except, dammit, I’m allowed because I’m human, and I’m the mom. My tone of voice sucks, I’m biting everyone’s heads off, and there is literally no excuse for it. I can’t tell you how often I’ve woken up in just a plain old grumpy mood. We must stop holding our children to a higher standard of perfection than we can attain ourselves.” They are not allowed to have grumpy moods, bad days, disrespectful tones, or bad attitudes. Rebecca Eanes, author of The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting said, “So often, children are punished for being human. And sometimes, I see it spilling over into my parenting, and it makes me cringe. ![]() I fight all the time to punch that perfectionist version of me in the throat and ignore her constant pestering. Sometimes, I’d like to say I’m a recovering perfectionist, but the truth is, that part of me is still there - always anxious to rear its ugly head. It often looked like a clothing store had exploded in my room. My pajamas are strewn on my own floor, and I remember how awful my room was growing up. Then I turn the corner, enter my own room, and instantly realize my double standard. Every time I go to shut her door, I sigh to myself and think, “What is her problem? How hard is it to put the clothes in the hamper?” It never fails to put me in a foul mood. There are clothes strewn all over the floor, and messy papers littering her desk. Every time I look in there, it makes me stabby. Listen to more episodes by subscribing to Good Weekend Talks wherever you get your podcasts.Part of my daily routine after I get the kids off to school is to shut my daughter’s bedroom door. Good Weekend Talks offers readers the chance to dive deep into the definitive stories of the day, exploring the events and individuals capturing the interest of Australians, through weekly conversations, with an array of special guests. “Do you ever go to those dinner parties when you have absolutely nothing to contribute? Absolutely. “There were one or two others, and me, right? So who’s a duck out of water at that dinner?” Crowe asks, laughing. Their discussion goes back to his beginnings in suburban Melbourne, including the humbling moments he began rubbing shoulders with sports royalty, including an impromptu dinner in Miami with Nike founder Phil Knight and his wife, Penny, Howard White, who managed Michael Jordan for Nike, tennis star Pete Sampras and his girlfriend at the time, as well as Andre Agassi and his then wife, film star Brooke Shields. The podcast is hosted this week by Good Weekend senior writer Melissa Fyfe, who profiled Crowe for the magazine’s recent cover story, “Mind Games”. In a wide-ranging conversation on the latest episode of Good Weekend Talks, he draws on his friendships from that time with the likes of world champion surfer Stephanie Gilmore, Indigenous Olympic runner Cathy Freeman, the late cricketer Shane Warne and the great basketballer Michael Jordan. ![]() Crowe, of course, is drawing on decades of experience guiding athletes and leaders, soldiers and17 CEOs, in a marketing, management and mentoring career spanning decades.
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